If you ever experienced premature ejaculation, we are going to give you five tips and tricks to try at home to help improve your situation. Now, premature ejaculation is a very common thing that guys experience. In fact, almost one in three men experience this at some point in their lives. It’s nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about. The key feature of premature ejaculation is ejaculating sooner than you or your partner desires. Usually, it’s within a minute of penetration.
If you watched the movie “American Pie,” you’d see that it addresses this issue of premature ejaculation in a lighthearted manner. Some of the causes of premature ejaculation are anxiety, which is probably erectile dysfunction, psychological problems such as guilt or sexual abuse, and then finally, relationship problems.
So, here is five tips and tricks to try at home to help deal with your premature ejaculation:
Tip #1 Masturbate an hour before you’re planning to have intercourse
There’s this thing in guys called the refractory period that after orgasms, they couldn’t get an erection or orgasm again during that period called the refractory period.
In younger people like an 18-year old that refractory period might be as short as 15 minutes, and in older people like 70-year-olds, that might be as long as 20 hours.
Tip #2 Use condoms
You probably know that condoms are something that will decrease your sensitivity but what you may not know is that there are actually these special types of condoms that have a topical anesthetic on the inside of them.
Tip #3 Topical anesthetic
If you don’t like using condoms, there’s a way to get the topical anesthetic without having to use it. You can buy the stuff over the counter or online. It’s called lidocaine.
What’s really important is to make sure that it’s just lidocaine and doesn’t have any other ingredients like menthol that might burn your penis. Normally, you want to put this stuff on about 30 minutes before you plan to have intercourse.
Studies have shown that it will increase the period before you ejaculate by about 8 minutes, which is pretty good. Now, for those of you who are a little bit more spontaneous and find that 30 minutes might be a little bit too long to wait.
There’s also lidocaine sprays such as Promescent, which was developed by a urologist. We usually recommend this because you can apply it on 10 minutes in advance instead of 30. So, it’s a little bit more spontaneous.
One of the downsides of these topical anesthetics is that especially with the creams, there’s a chance that the staff will transfer to your partner.
Unfortunately, if that happens, that may cause their genitalia to go numb, so you want to be sure to kind of wipe this stuff off before intercourse.
Tip #4 Kegel exercises
You may have heard this stuff from your partner or your mom when they talked about strengthening pelvic floors. So, it’s not just for urinary incontinence, but this will also actually help in terms of delaying ejaculation.
The key to finding the right muscles to contract is the next time you go to the bathroom, and you’re urinating, try to stop your stream and really focus on the muscles that you need to contract to stop it.
Next, you want to start doing these exercises where you can track these muscles for 3 seconds and then relax them and try to do it ten times in a row, 3 times a day.
You want to maintain your focus on just tightening your pelvic floors. Be really careful not to be squeezing your abdomen, your thighs, or your buttock.
Tip #5 Pause/Squeeze technique
So, you begin sexual activity as usual until you feel that you’re almost close to ejaculating, and then at that point, you have your partner basically grab your penis near the glands and the shaft and squeeze really hard until the desire to ejaculate goes away. Then you do this as many times as needed. Over time you’ll eventually train yourself to kind of automatically do this.
Those are your five tips. Give them a try if they aren’t enough, sometimes you may need to do something like medication. Some of the options that your physician or your urologist may be able to prescribe to you are something like Viagra if you have erectile dysfunction and Priligy in the case of PE. Antidepressants like Paxil are really good at delaying ejaculation because that’s one of their side effects, unfortunately. Finally, Tramadol, which is a pretty weak narcotic. It can also delay ejaculation as well as one of the side effects.
Usually, what we try is the stuff that doesn’t involve medications just because we’re always a little wary about putting people on brain-altering drugs like antidepressants or putting someone on opioids given the current opioid crisis in our country.